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Simcha Guidelines
Simcha Guidelines for Bar/Bat Mitzvah and Aufruf
Below are the general shul guidelines for Bar/Bat Mitzvahs and Aufrufs.
Communication:
- Please contact Donny Knoll (donnyknoll@gmail.com) to reserve a spot for leining, Valerie Levin (vlevin18@gmail.com), to place the event on the shul calendar, Holly Weiss (kiddush@arzeidarom.org) to reserve a kiddush, Mark Wiesel (hallrental@arzeidarom.org), to reserve a room (if necessary), Rabbi Ciment, and the gabbai (Donny Knoll and Jerry Barta).
This will allow for greater flexibility in fulfilling and optimizing any special requests.
Leining
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Anyone wishing to lein from the Torah requires testing by either David Blass, Donny Knoll, or Ron Goldgewert months in advance. David Blass can be contacted at rituals@arzeidarom.org If the bar-mitzvah boy is taught by an experienced teacher from the community, please have the teacher contact Donny Knoll directly.
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Any Bar mitzvah who wishes to lein parsha Parah or Zachor needs to talk to the Rabbi
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For the Shabbat of the simcha the family will be offered an alliyah for the Bar Mitzvah Boy or Chattan plus three additional alliyot
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Customarily the Bar Mitzvah, relative of the Bat Mitzvah, or chattan will lein the Haftorah
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Fathers, sons, and brothers are not called up in succession for alliyot
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Please fill out the kibbudim template by clicking here. Or by going to the online form on this site. Online Form. Hand Names hand-written written on paper are also acceptable.
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Efforts to give the family additional alliyot will be made subject to other chiyuvim/s'machot, and at the discretion of the Rabbi and gabbai.
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It is not the regular minhag of the shul to give out Hosafot (additional alliyot)
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Hagbah can be given out by the family to an experienced guest, at the discretion of the gabbai
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Gellilah can be given out by the family to any male over the age of 13
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Father-son and brother combinations are avoided for Hagbah-Gellilah
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Petichah-opening of the Aron Koshesh (and Hotza’ah if applicable for a second Sefer Torah) can be given out by the family to any male over the age of 13.
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Petichah during the concluding service can be given to any male above or below Bar-Mitzvah
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Please give the gabbai, in advance, a list of the Hebrew names of all honorees (and potential honorees)
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The Rabbi has asked that all men who receive Kivudim, arrive early enough in shul to daven Shacharit with the Tzibur
Ba’al Tefilot
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The family is welcome to recommend relatives or shul members to daven Kabbalat Shabbat, Pesukei D’ Zemirah, Shacharit, Musaf, concluding services, Adon Olam, Yigdal, and Mincha
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The Rabbi has asked that whoever leads Musaf, also arrive early enough to daven Shacharit with the Tzibur
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Candy Tossing
- Kosher & pareve soft candies with a Kashrut symbol approved by the Rabbi can be tossed towards the Bar Mitzvah boy or chattan – Only after the final brachot of the Haftorah.
- We recommend handing out candies only after the Haftorah begins. (There's enough time & the noise involved in handing out candy interferes with the Torah leining)
Bar/Bat –Mitzvah speaking
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The Bar or Bat Mitvah may choose to speak Shabbat morning, either before or after kiddush. Please consult with the Rabbi (rabbi@arzeidarom.org) or president (president@arzeidarom.org) for further clarification.
Kiddush
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If you wish to sponsor Kiddush or Shalosh Seudat the week of your simcha, please contact Holly Ohren at kiddush@arzeidarom.org
Room Rental
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There is a separate form for room rental. There is a fee for a private lunch or dinner. If you do not have the form, or have questions about the form, please contact Mark Wiesel or Donny Knoll at hallrental@arzeidarom.org.
Tue, January 31 2023
9 Shevat 5783
Thank you Ez Kolatch!
Today's Calendar
Daf HaShavua : 6:10am |
Shacharit : 6:45am |
Shacharit : 8:15am |
Mincha/Maariv : 5:00pm |
Shkia : 5:12pm |
Maariv : 7:45pm |
Upcoming Programs & Events
Feb 4 Parent Child Learning Motzei Shabbat Motzei Shabbat, Feb 4 7:00pm |
Feb 11 Alex Krupnik Bar Mitzvah Saturday, Feb 11 |
Feb 11 Parent Child Learning Motzei Shabbat Motzei Shabbat, Feb 11 7:00pm |
Feb 18 Parent Child Learning Motzei Shabbat Motzei Shabbat, Feb 18 7:00pm |
Feb 25 Jacob Darack Bar Mitzvah Saturday, Feb 25 |
This week's Torah portion is Parshat Beshalach
Shabbat, Feb 4 |
Candle Lighting
Friday, Feb 3, 4:57pm |
Tu B'Shvat
Monday, Feb 6 |
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Where To Find Us
Congregation Arzei Darom
725 Queen Anne Road,
Teaneck, NJ 07666