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Simcha Guidelines for Bar/Bat Mitzvah and Aufruf

Below are the general shul guidelines for Bar/Bat Mitzvahs and Aufrufs.  


This will allow for greater flexibility in fulfilling and optimizing any special requests.


  • Anyone wishing to lein from the Torah requires testing by either David Blass, Donny Knoll, or Ron Goldgewert months in advance.  David Blass can be contacted at If the bar-mitzvah boy is taught by an experienced teacher from the community, please have the teacher contact David Blass directly.

  • Any Bar mitzvah who wishes to lein parsha Parah or Zachor needs to talk to the Rabbi

Kibbudim- Honors

  • For the Shabbat of the simcha the family will be offered an alliyah for the Bar Mitzvah Boy or Chattan plus three additional alliyot

  • Customarily the Bar Mitzvah, relative of the Bat Mitzvah, or chattan will lein the Haftorah

  • Fathers, sons, and brothers are not called up in succession for alliyot

  • Please fill out the kibbudim template by clicking here. Or by going to the online form on this site. Online Form. Hand Names hand-written written on paper are also acceptable.

  • Efforts to give the family additional alliyot will be made subject to other chiyuvim/s'machot, and at the discretion of the Rabbi and gabbai.

  • It is not the regular minhag of the shul to give out Hosafot (additional alliyot)

  • Hagbah can be given out by the family to an experienced guest, at the discretion of the gabbai

    • Gellilah can be given out by the family to any male over the age of 13

    • Father-son and brother combinations are avoided for Hagbah-Gellilah

  • Petichah-opening of the Aron Koshesh  (and Hotza’ah if applicable for a second Sefer Torah) can be given out by the family to any male over the age of 13.

  • Petichah during the concluding service can be given to any male above or below Bar-Mitzvah

  • Please give the gabbai, in advance, a list of the Hebrew names of all honorees (and potential honorees)

  • The Rabbi has asked that all men who receive Kivudim, arrive early enough in shul to daven Shacharit with the Tzibur

Ba’al Tefilot

  • The family is welcome to recommend relatives or shul members to daven Kabbalat Shabbat, Pesukei D’ Zemirah, Shacharit, Musaf, concluding services, Adon Olam, Yigdal, and Mincha

    • The Rabbi has asked that whoever leads Musaf, also arrive early enough to daven Shacharit with the Tzibur

Candy Tossing

  • Kosher & pareve soft candies with a Kashrut symbol approved by the Rabbi can be tossed towards the Bar Mitzvah boy or chattan – Only after the final brachot of the Haftorah




Bar/Bat –Mitzvah speaking

  • The Bar or Bat Mitvah may choose to speak Shabbat morning, either before or after kiddush.  Please consult with the Rabbi ( or president ( for further clarification.


  • If you wish to sponsor Kiddush or Shalosh Seudat the week of your simcha, please contact Holly Weiss at

Room Rental

  • There is a separate form for room rental. There is a fee for a private lunch or dinner. If you do not have the form, or have questions about the form, please contact Carlos Sarue or Donny Furer at

Tue, May 18 2021 7 Sivan 5781